By V. Uma maheshwari
You must learn who is gold and who is simply gold-plated.
We know nowadays social media is playing a vital role in society. Every person is familiar with using it; there is no age limit. Especially adults are habituated to using mobile and are addicted to social media platforms like Instagram, YouTube, etc. The youth are enthusiastic about using social media, very much interested in online chatting, friendships, relationships, situationships…
Generally, we don’t trust the people we know in person, but most people trust someone they met through social media. It has become the worst case among the youth nowadays. Covid affected everyone’s life significantly. Every student has their own mobile phones with 4G and 5G network internet.
The Addiction to Online Chatting
Every person is very interested in chatting online. They start this as a timepass, but as it continues, it will become constant. They avoid their academics, work, and essential things just to chat with someone unknown. They stop thinking about their professional career. They don’t know the time; they don’t even have any idea of what they are getting themselves into. It’s a phase where the whole world goes void; online chatting is like a drug addiction. People may commit many mistakes in online chatting.
The Risks of Online Friendships
Online apps typically introduce users to strangers; online conversations that start with “hi!” most likely have unpleasant encounters during their existence. Some guys eventually discovered their best buddies and life partners. These circumstances are quite uncommon. There is another side to the internet world. In online chat, people might make a lot of blunders. This wrecks their life even worse. An example of how virtual friendships and conversations impact in-person friendships was given.
A Story of Innocence and Manipulation
There was a girl who was innocent, beautiful, messed up, short-tempered, very anxious, and an overthinker. She was from a middle-class family; she had the eternal love of her parents, relatives, and friends. The girl also had a phone. She started exploring the phone, gaining knowledge via her phone and numerous other apps like Instagram, Snapchat, WhatsApp, and many more. She started chatting with friends on Instagram. She met one of her known friends. He didn’t introduce his closest friend to her physically; instead, he did it via Instagram. She struck up a conversation with him.
For a few months, the talks proceeded as usual. He made a proposal to the girl one day, but she rejected him. However, she carried on talking to him. She liked him. He asked her one day, “Can we have a one-day relationship?” She gave her consent. They shared all their emotions and day-to-day experiences online. The girl was concerned the following day that she was not receiving any responses. “Why are you serious? It’s not truly yet; it was only a one-day relationship,” he messaged her.
Obsession and Manipulation
She continued chatting with him. She had feelings for him. She had complete faith in him. However, he was making it quite evident that he had no interest in romantic relationships. His messages from the beginning were like flirting. As long as it prolonged, he was sending her vulgar reels, and his chat texts started becoming vulgar. She was obsessed with him; she believed him completely and continued chatting, though he was talking above his bounds and finishing conversations. She would message him first every day. She wanted to talk to him because of her age, her hormones, and his words of persuasion.
She liked having male best friends; thus, she usually had a solid lifelong friendship with him, although he wasn’t the appropriate person for it. He started asking for her chest photos. She first said no, refusing. He stopped talking to her. He was such a dramatist and manipulator. She went to her best friend and told her that he asked for her breast pics without clothes, and showed the reels he sent. Her friend was worried and very angry at him.
Her friend asked that she stop talking to him right now and ban him. “I could not survive without talking to him,” she said. Her friend warned her. She said “no” when her friend questioned if she had blocked that guy. “Why?” her friend asked. “I had a conversation with him, we had a fight and sorted it out, and now we are talking normally,” she claimed.
Control and Deception
There were three friends in the gang. She had stopped talking to the girl about him before she told her. He asked for her Instagram password one day. She said no to him. But the boy was pointing fingers at her, saying, “Why don’t you give me the Instagram password? I’m not going to get the password from you. Just as you are conversing with me, you are conversing with other boys as well. You are not providing the password since you are a dishonest person and you make mistakes.” The moment we stop pretending to like them, fake friends get upset.
“How can he blame that I am chatting with other boys when we are not in a relationship? Why did he ask for my Instagram account?” When she informed a friend about this, she became concerned. Again, a day or two later, she said nothing and assured her friend that everything was good. It was discussed with the other friend. About her, they were both concerned. The two girls were curious about what she was doing. She also wished to cut the boy out of her life. They went to her phone as planned, told her a narrative, and the innocent girl fell for it. The friend immediately saved the info on her phone. Then, after a few minutes, asked her to log out.
The Unveiling of Truth
The buddies saw her chat with the boy when they reached home, and it was filthy and obscene. There was a mistake made by both persons. She simply saved the password and changed it so that OTP numbers would be sent to her friend’s phone number and email address if she wanted to alter it. She took two days to recognize it, yet there was no pause in the boy and girl’s conversation.
They never stopped talking about everything. She started reading a conversation with the girl and the boy. Despite the boy’s crude, vulgar communications, the girl responded to him in a cool, collected manner and favorably. They saw that both of them were going beyond what was reasonable. She sent him the photos he requested, wearing really small clothing, and he was not happy. He requested that she close with her hands uncovered to deliver the images of her chest. She sent them, but he took screenshots of it, and it was only ever seen once. By god’s grace, she did not send a face. Actually, the girl sent just one picture at first.
She declined his further requests. He replied, “All right.” “Do you want to?” she asked. “Yes, I want,” he answered. She sent it. She asked the boy, “We aren’t in a relationship; it becomes nudity; it’s not correct to do so,” nonetheless feeling guilty.
“THE RELATIONSHIP IS ONLY FOR A NAME’S SAKE, BUT THE FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT,”
the boy retorted. “What sort of feelings do they have here?”
Confrontation and Denial
After being taken aback, friends decided to speak with her. They questioned her, saying, “What are you doing?” She remained silent. They informed her that her account was hacked by them. “Tell me, are you currently in a relationship?” She declined.
They made a great effort to make the guy’s character and her mistakes clear. She is not, however, prepared to take her friend’s comments to heart. With an accusing tone, she questioned, “What sort of friends are you? You don’t deserve to be friends because you examined my account, betrayed me, and don’t even trust me.
The worst thing was having friends like you; friends allow us to communicate things with them that our parents cannot hear, but what kind of friends are you blackmailing so that you will tell my parents?” She and her buddies got into a heated debate.
She didn’t get what her friend had said at the conclusion of the dispute. She had great faith in the boy. With her words, she was demeaning, disparaging, and placing the blame on her friends, protesting that none of the errors were her fault. “They play victims in crimes they committed.”
She was not in a position to understand and determine what was right. And what’s not right? Who is right? Who isn’t? Blackmailing her friends and playing the victim, she says, “You will be the main reason for my death and bear the responsibility for whatever happens to me.” If you inform my parents. Her friends simply left her alone and stopped worrying about her, which is how she found out when it actually happened.
Finding False Support
She informed the other friend and gave her faith in her. Her closest friends had abandoned her, deceived her, and blamed her. And that friend supported her; “You are absolutely correct. You’re drawn to him in some way. You are entirely entitled to your emotions. You are fully entitled to what you send. What actions you take. Nobody is authorized to ask you questions.” This girl believed that her friends were lacking in morality, cheap, and ignorant of the importance of friendship. “Don’t ever try to comprehend my feelings and emotions; I don’t care about them. Finally, they start to mistrust, accuse, and threaten me.” Here, who is attempting to guide her in the right direction? Who is it—her friend or her best friend? Which friends should the girl need to support her?
One friend can change your whole life
99% of the time, internet friends can be dangerous. One does not have to trust every mutual buddy. It’s not necessary to get close to friends you have in common,
